Groom 101

Wedding Night Sex: Hot or Hype?

Chris Easter

Well, there you are. The reception is over and you’re alone with your bride — finally. The wedding day can really take a toll on the groom and bride. You’re bound to be dead tired after hours of standing, posing, dancing, and talking to every family member and friend at the reception. If you’re like 55% of newlyweds, it’s time for bed. However, if you’re one of the lucky 45%: Game on! Here are some helpful tips on making wedding night sex an experience that you and your bride won’t soon forget.

First Things First

You need to chill out and relax for a bit after the wedding. But be careful, there’s a fine line between falling asleep and resting to build up some energy. Chances are, you’ll spend the first hour or so after the reception reminiscing about the wedding day and how great it was. We also recommend having a doggy bag prepared with food from the reception. This is a standard practice with most caterers. Because most couples are too busy to eat very much during the day, food will replenish your body for the more strenuous activities to come.
One thing most guys may not realize about the wedding reception is that every time you have an empty hand, someone will probably hand you a drink. Word to the wise: Try to drink in moderation. You don’t want to have trouble rising to the occasion later.

Talk Dirty To Me

Of course, we’re talking about telling your brand new wife how special she is, and how beautiful she looked in her wedding dress. Nothing will likely get your bride in the mood more than hearing this. She’s been looking forward to this day for quite some time.

From there, the conversation can turn to more arousing material.

Turning in the V-Card?

First off, congratulations are in order to those of you who held out and waited for marriage. We’re certain it wasn’t easy to do. The main thing to remember in planning for the first time is not to stress yourself out. Let’s be honest: your performance the first time won’t be perfect. But what will be perfect is the experience. However, if you really want to impress her, we recommend picking up a book or checking out some websites on sex tips. Trust us, they’re out there.

Another key is communication before the big night. You should already be comfortable talking about sex with your fiancée. If not, now’s the time to bring it up. This is a very simple way to cut through any tension and or anxiety. If she’s a virgin as well, you’ll both be experiencing this together and can discuss your feelings and expectations. Most couples will attend some sort of marriage counseling and this is another place that sex will probably be discussed, so it helps to be prepared.

Bag of Tricks

Since you’ll (hopefully) never get another shot at wedding night sex, why not make it an experience that will be hard to top? Whether you’re staying at a hotel or a house, plan ahead and have some rose petals, chocolate covered strawberries, champagne, or a combination of the three prepared in the bedroom. We don’t expect you guys to understand, but women dig this kind of stuff (especially brides). Another way to set the mood is to create a mix CD of songs that have meant a lot to you and your bride over the years. Pick songs that won’t get old because you’ll hopefully be hearing them on repeat all night long.

For those men out there who like to boldly go where few others have before, try wearing something special for her. It could be a leopard print thong or maybe a themed costume that will fulfill a fantasy that she’s always dreamt of. The key here is to be creative.

Honeymoon Sex

Although wedding night sex can be overrated or may not even end up happening at all after such an exhausting day, honeymoon sex, on the other hand, can be one of the Seven Wonders of the World. This is one time in your married life when there’s a good chance that you’ll have sex every day (at least for the length of the honeymoon), so be prepared to take advantage of it.

Get freaky with it, but just make sure to leave the handcuffs, whips or chains at home. You don’t want to have to explain those items to airport security. Instead, get some nice lotions or massage oils. Most brides get lingerie from a bachelorette party or shower to bring with her on the honeymoon. If you want to really impress her you could also have a sexy outfit that you picked out waiting for her.

TMR Recommendation: You know your bride-to-be better than us. Use this information as a jumping off point to planning your big night. The main thing to remember is making your bride feel special. If you can do that, you’ve already succeeded.

And remember the most important thing: It’s your wedding night, so kick back, relax and enjoy the ride. Or if you’re Superman, rides.


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